A Closer Look @ Worry

Do you think there is anything about to be worried in this world.  

Absolutely nothing!!!

 You may spend the rest of your life, worrying about the future, and no amount your worry will ever change a thing. People always confuse worrying with planning for the future. If you are planning, and the present activity will contribute to an effective future, then it is not termed as worry. Much of our worries always concerns things over which we have no control.  

Worry is endemic to our culture. Almost everyone in our society spends an inordinate amount of their present moments worrying about their future. Not one moment of worry will make things any better. To say the fact, worry will very well help you in being less effective in dealing with the present. Worry has also nothing to do with love, which predicates/dictates a relationship in which each person has the right to be what he chooses without any necessary conditions imposed by the other. Moreover, end result of which you are worrying about frequently turns out to be less horrible in reality than it was in your imagination. You may be in the professional worrier classification, creating unnecessary stress and anxiety in your life as a result of the choices you are making to worry about every conceivable kind of activity.

In order to eliminate worry, it is necessary to understand the why behind it. If worry is a large part of your life, you can bet that it has many historical antecedents. Guilt and worry are self-nullifying behaviors, which vary only in a temporal sense. Guilt focuses on the past and worry on the future. Worry is always a present-moment activity. By using your current life being immersed over a future time in your life, you are able to escape the now, that threatens you. Worry is a handy justification for certain self-defeating behavior. It is a clever device to keep you inactive, and clearly it is easier for many to worry; than to be an active, involved person. They can bring ulcers, hypertension, cramps, tension headaches, backaches and the like; and they do result in considerable attention from others and justify much self-pity as well, and some people would rather be pitied than fulfilled.

The next question in line is, what are the strategies for eliminating worry?

Its easier, just begin to view your present moments as times to live, love, rather than to obsess about the future.

When you feel yourself worrying, ask yourself this question. “What am I avoiding now by using up this moment with worry?” The best antidote to this worry is a firm action.

Recognize the reason for your worrying, ask yourself “Is there anything that will ever change as a result of my worrying over/about it?”

You may feel stupid when someone asks you to give yourself shorter periods of worry-time, but the constant effort my pay dividends like controlling your thoughts. Try to assess how many of the things you worried about ever materialized after all. You will soon realize that the worry is really a wasteful activity, which does nothing to alter your future.

Another strategy to be used is, begin to face the fears you possess with productive thought and behavior. An effective challenge to a fear or worry is the most productive way to eradicate it from your life. The most effective weapon you have for wiping your worry is your own determination to banish this neurotic behavior. The present moment is the key to understanding your guilt and worry activities. Learn to live now and not waster your current moments in immobilizing thoughts about the past or future. Remember that, there is not another moment to live but now, and all of your guilt and worry are done in the present now.

The golden rule is, “Jam tomorrow, Jam yesterday, but never Jam today”.

How about you? Any jam today? Since it must come sometime, How about now?